I read awhile back that once we decide we're ready to learn how to *really* love ourself, the universe will conspire to help us. We'll encounter all kinds of experiences, circumstances, and people that will help us see all the ways we are not. We'll be forced to examine what's going on inside our mind and our heart and study our reactions to the situations we experience and the people we interact with. We'll have to face all the old stories we believe about our worth and our lovability. We'll come to see how self-critical and self-judgmental we are. We'll see all the ways we hold ourself back and sabotage our own joy.
We'll be invited to look at every obstacle and challenge as a lesson in self love. We'll be asked to explore our choices and actions and inquire how we could love ourself better with different choices. We'll be encouraged to discover our own truth and listen to our inner guidance. We'll be invited to take better care of our mind, body and soul, to discover our true needs, to set boundaries and stand up for ourself. After years of not doing this well, it'll feel really hard, selfish even. We'll worry about what people will think and we'll fear pissing people off.
This kind of deep personal transformation is challenging for anyone. Letting go of old behavior patterns, old beliefs and stories, and old ways of thinking about ourself is hard. We're losing the very identity we spent our whole life creating. But when you're a highly sensitive person, it can feel excruciating. We may not know what to do with the strong waves of emotion we feel. While we're in it, we need to practice self-appreciation, self-compassion and self-kindness. When we come through the other side, we can look back and see what we learned and how we've evolved. Learning to love ourself is a continual practice. Sometimes we'll do it really well and sometimes we'll fail miserably. But we'll try again. Because we *are* worth it.