That's the question I've been holding for the last couple of months. Earlier this year, I decided that "choose love" would be my theme for the year (you can read more about that in an earlier blog post). I set that intention for myself without knowing exactly what that would mean or how exactly I would go about doing that.
In the meantime and thanks to my esteemed colleague Christi Hegstad*, I've been reading a book titled The One Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller.
As I dove in to The One Thing, there were a few concepts that resonated well with me. One of the main themes of the book is that once you know your main thing (your one thing), then why would you spend much time doing less important tasks?
It's such a simple idea, and yet for me, was also incredibly profound. If the most important thing I do at work is to coach people (or do related work that prepares me to coach people), then why at times do I allow myself to get distracted by less important things such as reading Facebook (hypothetically speaking, of course!)? It's a great question for all to ponder!
Another main premise of the book is for us to figure out how to productively use our time to experience more success in the area(s) of our one thing. There are a lot of good tips here (and if you haven't read the book, I do recommend it). But for me, I was really struggling to land on what, exactly, was my one thing?
Yes, I *love* coaching people; it is truly a passion of mine. AND, I also enjoy facilitating group learning events and workshops. And I love writing. And I love connecting with people who are not my clients. How do I choose just one?
I decided to give myself grace and not choose just one thing as THE most important priority in my business. This variety, after all, is one of the reasons I started my own business, so that I could enjoy many activities that nourish my soul!
When I let go of the need to find just one thing in my business, I also let go of the need that my one thing only be focused on my business. What if my one thing was more broad than that? What if I had already chosen my one thing earlier in the year when I set my theme for the year? I started pondering, what if my one thing is to choose love?
With my one thing being choose love, this applies to all aspects of my life, including my career and my business, my personal relationships including family and friends, my spiritual and personal development, my self-care and more. In each of these facets of life, I can make a conscious choice to love first. I can choose to love my career/professional endeavors. I can choose to love others. I can choose to love myself.
Love my career: I am fortunate to love what I do. I love how I spend my days, I love working in and on my business, and I love being my own boss. I love working with my clients and helping them accomplish their life goals. I love collaborating with my friends Kim and Melanie to spread contagious light into the world during and between our women's retreats.
Love others: I can choose to come from a place of love first with my family, my friends, my colleagues, and with anyone I meet. Up to this point in my life, this has not been a strength of mine, which is why I chose the theme choose love this year.
Love myself: I can make different choices to love myself better by taking care of my mind, body, and soul. I can continue to focus on my spiritual and personal growth and development.
With choosing love as my one thing, I will better align my time and energy to living my core values and focus more on my priorities each day. I'll continue seeking ways to further grow and leverage love in my life (I've experienced several love-related insights and shifts over the last few weeks and will be sharing stories from my journey in future blog posts).
With choosing love as my one thing, I'll see bigger and better possibilities and choices for my life. Keller wrote: "Ask enough people what they want in life and you'll hear happiness as the overwhelming response...happiness is what we most want - yet, it's what most of us understand the least." We pursue things that we think will make us happy and when we accomplish the goal, we realize we aren't much happier than when we started. (And more to come on that topic in future posts, too!)
Are you up for the challenge?
My challenge to you is this: Consider what the main thing is in your life. And when doing so, think beyond your job description. Rather than getting stuck on what your one thing is at work, what might your one thing be, in life?
*You can learn more about Christi and her programs, including the ASPIRE Success Club, on the MAP Professional Development, Inc. website.