Brene ended this chapter with a parenting manifesto that she wrote to serve as a touchstone, a prayer, and a meditation when she's struggling with vulnerability or fear. After reading her manifesto*, I was inspired to write a draft of my own. I'm sharing my draft in celebration of Mother's Day.
My Motherhood Manifesto (draft)
You are loved. You are lovable. Just the way you are.
I am learning to love myself, too, so that I can be a good role model for you in self-love and self-compassion.
I want to teach you that you can be afraid AND brave at the same time.
I will support you in following your dreams, even in the voice of opposition or in your own fears and doubts.
I want to help you navigate your emotions rather than avoiding them or burying them.
I want to cultivate your curiosity and support your growth mindset. I want to support you in finding your own path and strengthening your independent nature. AND I want you to know that it's acceptable and normal to ask for help when you need it.
I want to help you cultivate creativity, awe, appreciation, and gratitude in all aspects of your life. I want you to find internal joy rather than searching for external happiness.
I will show you through my actions how to be patient, kind, compassionate, loving, and joyful.
I am not perfect. I will strive to be the best mother I can be, but I will make mistakes. I will have the courage to say I'm sorry and do what I need to do to make it right.
I promise to help live your life to the fullest, and to love deeply.
*You can download Brene's manifesto from brenebrown.com.