We are human "beings," not human "doings." We are more than our achievements and failures, no matter what the world thinks of them.
--Dr. Jim Denison
- "Hi, I'm Tabby, The Purposeful Growth Coach" or
- "I'm Tabby, with Purposeful Growth, LLC"
Perhaps we provide a list of the roles we play ("I'm Tabby and I'm a mother and a wife").
Sometimes, we even share our traits and tendencies ("I'm Tabby and I'm an over-achieving perfectionist").
I've said all of these at some point within the past few months.
None of these titles, roles, or accomplishments say anything about who we are. They only tell people what we do.
The thing is, who we are goes way beyond what we do. And discovering the "real me" is an ongoing journey. Along the way, we receive clues about who we are...or more often, who we are not. Then we start letting these false parts of our self drop away and we naturally begin to embrace who we really are underneath.
I've over-used and over-identified with labels and descriptors my whole life. I lost track of who I really was beneath the labels. I found myself continually asking, "Who am I?" "Who am I?" "Who am I?" I was trying to force it and the answers never came.
Now, I pay attention to clues. I notice much more quickly when my behavior is not in alignment with who or how I want to be. I pay more attention to what I do and say, and how I feel after it.
I'm still working on discovering the real me buried within. But the difference for me is that now, I've stopped pushing. I know now that the real me will slowly reveal itself to me because "identity is never simply a creation. It is always a discovery." David G. Benner
Discover yourself. Grow with purpose. Flourish in life.